Sadness and lack should also be taught to children

Sadness and lack should also be taught to children

Suja Koirala of Kapan says, "We had to face so much suffering and poverty during our time. I have a daughter, I think that she should not have to suffer any kind of pain like us.

"It's a daughter, why make her sad, we have done what she asked for," Suja says, "We have tried to keep her happy even by hiding our problems." thing

PepsiCola's Sarita Khadka is also missing a son. She is very aware that no matter how much she has suffered, her son should not have to suffer like that. "Father has not yet experienced hunger and suffering, because we are working hard day and night so that he does not suffer," says Sarita.

An entire generation, who have now become parents. They keep their children as happy as possible. These parents have only one understanding, 'My children should not have to experience the suffering and deprivation that I experienced.'

It is a natural desire of every parent to make their children happy. However, how appropriate is the effort and tendency to always raise children happily? How does it affect the emotional development of children? Psychologist Karuna Kunwar says, 'This is not a correct practice. Because the amount and demand of the children will gradually increase as they fulfill everything they want and give happiness. One day there will be such a situation that there will be a world-earth difference between the condition of the parents and the aspirations of the children.

Parents want their children not to suffer hardships like themselves. Also, accordingly, they try to make them rich in everything. But some parents are giving more than their needs so that children don't have to suffer.

Children start having big aspirations for their happiness, which parents do not have the ability to fulfill. After reaching such a situation, there is a severe rift between parents and children. "At this time, the child has gone out of control," Kunwar says, "The parents can neither meet their expectations nor handle them."

She suggests that while raising children, they should also be made aware of their sorrows, lacks, problems and struggles.

Parents no matter how rich they are, no matter how poor they are. Psychologist Kuwan says that it is very wrong for them to provide immense services to their children. "Children who have not experienced poverty, have not experienced suffering, and have not endured hunger," says psychologist Kunwar, "they develop the nature of being very disturbed by minor problems and not being excited about anything."

Before and now

Earlier, it was a celebration when children cooked meat at home. There was great joy in wearing new clothes. Small things used to give great happiness, but what is the current situation?

Many dishes are prepared at home and placed in front of the children. However, they are not interested in eating. The parents are feeding the baby. Even if they buy new clothes, it does not bring them any happiness. Because parents did not allow any lack of clothes.

"Today's children don't understand poverty and suffering," says psychologist Kunwar, "it's not their fault, it's a mistake in our upbringing." After children are made to have everything, they don't feel the lack. They cannot feel sorrow. They do not experience hunger and fatigue.

"Because of this, they do not think that the achievement of anything is big and important in itself," says psychologist Kunwar, "everything seems trivial."

Children who have more comforts are less hardworking

Muna Ghimire, a teacher at Namgyal Secondary School, says that there is a difference between a child brought up with all the facilities and a child brought up with some misery and deprivation.

Children who are brought up with enough services and comforts, they do not know how to be happy with small things. "Such children have a habit of being stubborn," says teacher Ghimire, "because they think they will get what they want as soon as they are stubborn." Therefore, there is a common experience that they are less diligent.

Children who grow up in some hardships learn a lot from their parents' struggles, which makes them happy even in small things. "Children who grow up in grief tend to be more inclined towards friends and teachers, they get along with everyone and have a hard-working nature."

Let's look at the need, not the desire of the child

Parents want their children not to suffer hardships like themselves. Also, accordingly, they try to make them rich in everything. But some parents are giving more than their needs so that children don't have to suffer.

He fulfills every wish of the children, even though he suffers a lot. Psychologist Karuna Kunwar says that they start asking for unnecessary things and think that I will get what I asked for. "Children should also be given some practical knowledge so that they don't spend more money than they need, but only ask for what they need," she says.

Parents often hide their sadness and lack of home in front of their children. That is wrong because the children who have seen the suffering of the home have learned a lot from the family as well. Therefore, Kunwar says that they should also be told about the misery and lack of homes and their urgent demands should also be met.

If a child asks for something that is not necessary, no matter how small, you should say no. If what he demands is not necessary, he should not say that he will fulfill it once. She says that if you teach them to say no, then they will learn to adjust to some things. "We usually give them more clothes than they need, we give them a lot of food. This method is not right. We should only give them what is necessary," says Kunwar.

When children fulfill everything they want or want, they understand that everything I want is fulfilled. But at some point or for some reason, if what he wants is not fulfilled, he gets irritable, gets angry, gets angry with his family, doesn't like to stay at home and complains and develops tendencies and psychology, says Kunwar.